Right and Wrong

Right and Wrong

Power based on fear and punishment assumes that there’s a right way to be and a wrong way to be! It assumes that the person judging knows absolute right from wrong.

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withdraw emotionally

Parents withdraw emotionally when children don’t ‘obey’ us

The things that we do consciously as parents are really important, BUT we also communicate unconscious messages to our children that are even more important.

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spank a child

No-one ever spanks a child because of something that that child has done

No-one ever spanks a child because of something that that child has done, even though that’s what appears to be happening! Beneath the surface something quite different is happening:

One of the main reasons why we, as parents and teachers, spank children is because we’re legitimately concerned that …

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exes as narcissists

Instead of seeing exes as narcissists!

Stop for a moment! Instead of seeing exes as narcissists, we can see them as someone who is so emotionally triggered that they enter ‘fight or flight’ mode whenever something about the divorce is being discussed.

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