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Distressed infants eventually cease their crying when they arrive at a state of FUTILITY

Responding to a conversation about depression: Looking through what I describe as a “Lens of Love” I can attest to the terror that an infant feels when the grown-ups who sustain them cannot be ‘reached’. From the perspective of a powerless week old infant disconnection = death, and this association persists throughout a person’s life.…

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Reciprocal- Triggering

While we, as parents, are responding to the distress that’s being expressed by our children, that exposure is triggering cellular memory of our own that hearkens back to how we felt when we were having a tantrum. If the intensity of the emotions or sensations that we are feeling and experiencing, as an adult, are…

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Responding to: The Most Powerful Response When Your Child is Inconsolable

When a child is triggered by this kind of an event, we’re not talking about any kind of physical threat to his well-being. And we know that the nervous system only responds by entering fight|flight|freeze when a threat IS perceived. In this case, the child’s tantrum is combining all three responses (fight,flight and freeze) and…

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Responding to: “Every school should have a full-time mental health specialist”

I liked the title of this blog post: “Every school should have a full-time mental health specialist”, but would like to propose a more far-reaching alternative. Anyone familiar with my work will know that mental health is non-binary. The idea that there’s delineation between those who are mentally healthy and those who are mentally ill…

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Every act of violence and aggression between people is rooted in their fear of …

… Imagine how stressful it is for a six month old baby to be separated from his/her parents. At that age, the baby has insufficient life experience to KNOW that their parent will eventually return. Although most adults are unable to put words to our pre-verbal memories, our cells and our nervous system have never…

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